As much as it hurts...as much as you hate knowing that your spouse is involved in an affair...knowing is better than not knowing.

Now that you know what the issue is, you can work towards saving your marriage.

So, as hard as it is, the fact that you know the issue means you can start doing what you can to fix the issue. This is not gender specific. You do the same things to save your marriage if you are male or female. These principles are universal. They work. They have worked for thousands of people, and they can work for you, too.